Since the start of this year, I've had very mixed feelings about living at home. Sometimes, I feel regretful, other times I feel relieved. Regret because I may have lost the best opportunity to move out, relief because I just love my childhood home so much. Starting Uni was definitely a time of change. It took a lot of adjusting and getting used to. In a way, deciding to not move out was just one less thing I had to learn to familiarise myself with. Since I really did struggle getting comfortable at Uni, I do feel quite grateful in that sense. In saying that though, there is a seed of doubt in my mind that wonders whether it would have been better to just deal with both transitions at once. Then I wouldn't be having these confusing thoughts in the first place.
I can completely understand why people decide to leave home alongside starting Uni. I definitely think it's the most logical time to move out. The main reason I decided to stay at home was because there was no real reason I shouldn't. Not only was I already living in the same city as my chosen Uni, it is literally a 30 min walk away from my house. Location-wise, I had absolutely nothing to complain about. The only other purpose I could think of for moving out was gaining more of my independence. At home, under the same roof as my parents, I almost feel stuck. I'm struggling to grow as a person. I look at the friends who are either flatting or living at Uni accommodation and they seem so much wiser and mature than me. They're living like proper adults whereas I'm still having to text my parents if I'm coming home late from somewhere. I guess I'm not necessarily moving backwards but I'm not moving forwards either and I think that's the thing that scares me the most.
Living at home definitely has its advantages and disadvantages. I try to see it through a positive lens as much as possible however I can't deny there are moments where I wish I followed in the footsteps of a majority of my friends. This post is a little bit all of over the place which represents my thoughts on the topic perfectly. I'd love to hear what you think about leaving home? Did you do it straight before Uni? Or did you wait a little while first? Let me know in the comment section below!