Since the start of this year, I've had very mixed feelings about living at home. Sometimes, I feel regretful, other times I feel relieved. Regret because I may have lost the best opportunity to move out, relief because I just love my childhood home so much. Starting Uni was definitely a time of change. It took a lot of adjusting and getting used to. In a way, deciding to not move out was just one less thing I had to learn to familiarise myself with. Since I really did struggle getting comfortable at Uni, I do feel quite grateful in that sense. In saying that though, there is a seed of doubt in my mind that wonders whether it would have been better to just deal with both transitions at once. Then I wouldn't be having these confusing thoughts in the first place.
I can completely understand why people decide to leave home alongside starting Uni. I definitely think it's the most logical time to move out. The main reason I decided to stay at home was because there was no real reason I shouldn't. Not only was I already living in the same city as my chosen Uni, it is literally a 30 min walk away from my house. Location-wise, I had absolutely nothing to complain about. The only other purpose I could think of for moving out was gaining more of my independence. At home, under the same roof as my parents, I almost feel stuck. I'm struggling to grow as a person. I look at the friends who are either flatting or living at Uni accommodation and they seem so much wiser and mature than me. They're living like proper adults whereas I'm still having to text my parents if I'm coming home late from somewhere. I guess I'm not necessarily moving backwards but I'm not moving forwards either and I think that's the thing that scares me the most.
Living at home definitely has its advantages and disadvantages. I try to see it through a positive lens as much as possible however I can't deny there are moments where I wish I followed in the footsteps of a majority of my friends. This post is a little bit all of over the place which represents my thoughts on the topic perfectly. I'd love to hear what you think about leaving home? Did you do it straight before Uni? Or did you wait a little while first? Let me know in the comment section below!
Hey, darling! I'm also living at home for uni and it's 100% okay :) I also call/text my family if I'll be late :) It's 100% okay, my love! Don't feel bad :D Sending a BIG hug & LOTS of love <3
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There's nothing wrong with living at home or moving out for uni :). Since you go to school so close, even though it's nice to walk 5 minutes, the difference isn't too big. I feel like for Asians, our parents tend to be more protective over their children (especially the girls). I've lived at home for my first two years of uni before moving out for the last two years. Don't ever let anyone make you feel incompetent for living at home. You save SO MUCH MONEY (ok, it's definitely the case here) - life isn't a cookie cutter :).
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This is an interesting perspective, as people never really talk about it but obviously still do it. I moved out straight away for uni as there's no universities around where I live at home and my family situation didn't really make it possible either. I'm so glad I did ngl because I'm so independent now, and I love living with my best friends.
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ReplyDeleteIn the university I attended, there's a policy that all first-years are assured of accommodation at the university. I lived there in my first-year. My cousin chose not to because her home was very close to the university. Living in uni was definitely more advantageous than living at home, in first-year that is, because I got to learn the ins and outs of the university and I got to be a little bit more independent. However, I couldn't wait to get my own place out of uni accommodation. There are some things you can't get with university accommodation, your own space for example, and assurance of accommodation next semester or year (once you're done with first year for my uni). So I got a place to rent near the university until I was done with school. Uni accommodation is great though, and definitely more affordable than accommodation outside of uni. But, if you'd still want to live at home, that could work too, it's all about finding a balance, and there are many students who actually choose to live at home because it's much more affordable that way. If you're interested, I have a post on 10 foolproof ways to survive college. You can find it here https://www.yvonnewairimuwabai.weebly.com/blog/the-freshers-guide-to-university
ReplyDeleteI can totally understand where you’re coming from but i also know the other side as well. I didn’t live at home when I was in university but i did move home after and have lived at home with my parents for the past two years. That’s a big adjustment because i did learn how to live on my own and handle myself now, like you have to text my parents about my whereabouts. i can’t just say “i’ll be back” without telling them where i’m going and it’s frustrsting. What i try to remind myself is that, everyone has their own path. whether your still in school or not, moving out is different for everyone and there’s not really a “right” or “wrong” time.
ReplyDeletemich / simplymich.com
I feel like moving out for Uni definitely made me grow as a person, however I don't think you should feel bad about staying at home at all! There are sooo many positives to living at home! Also think of all the money you'll save haha
ReplyDeleteJas xx | https://thoughtsfromjasmine.co.uk
I left home for uni because my uni was very far away but if it was next door, i would have stayed! i mean, free food and all! home is like a hotel ahah
ReplyDeleteI'm in the same boat as you - I live at home because uni is so close it seemed daft at the time to move, and all my brothers had stayed at home too. But I'd also been away in another country for a year and that made the transition a lot harder - at first I was so glad to be at home, but my brothers kept warning me that it might be difficult to readjust to not having that freedom I'd grown so accustomed to! And it was, and still is something I think about often. Staying at home has saved me a lot of money, but it has also sacrificed my social life a bit - where I was used to being out with my friends till all hours, now I have my parents calling me at nine asking if I want a lift home yet (which is so sweet but also the worst!! haha) Think of the money you're saving, that's what I do!
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I definitely think this has it's pros & cons! Depends on you as a person, and the situation. I feel as you described, if your school is so nearby, it would be more affordable to just stay home, why not? I know it can be costly if you have to pay for living in the University, etc.. I actually only attended a year so far of my local Community College which doesn't have dorms, but if I ever attended University with dorms, and it was nearby my home, I'd probably live with my parents just to save money haha.
ReplyDeleteI think there are definitely both positives and negatives about living at home during university! It's certainly a huge money saver to stay at home, and it's a great option if you live close to your school!
ReplyDeleteI moved 300 miles for uni so I didn't have a lot of choice, I was glad I made that decision. I wanted to move out just to be independent while I was there and it was definitely the right decision for me. But you have to do what's best for you and if you're more comfortable being home then it's the right decision. I knew a lot of people who lived close to uni, moved out for first year just so they had the experience and then moved back home for the rest of the degree and that seemed to work well for them x
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If you love be being home and your parents are all for you being there then stay there. No reason to move out unless that’s what you really want.
ReplyDeleteI feel the exact same, I am in my third year of uni and I have stayed at home the whole time, I do feel scared about the fact that I am not 'moving forward' but I tell myself that it is going to be so much more special when I do (eventually) move out! I haven't made as many friends as I would have wanted too but I wouldn't change my experience! Great post xx
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