I've always considered myself an introvert. It's definitely not unusual for me to feel a little out of place at big social events/gatherings. I tend to keep to myself in large groups, need to step away from the crowd from time to time and take a little while to warm up around new people. Over the past few years I've been able to come out of my shell quite a bit however I still have my introverted preferences. I definitely feel more comfortable talking one-one-one than with a group of about 5 or 6 and when having a conversation with someone I've just met, like to ask questions instead of sharing stories about myself. In today's post, I'm sharing with you 4 tips for introverts. If you find socialising a bit tricky at times, hopefully this post will be useful in some way.
1. Fake it Til You Make it
If you find yourself in a social situation where you don't know anyone, try not to let your discomfort show. If you're not quite ready to approach someone, make yourself look as friendly as possible. People are more likely to come up to someone who is smiling and looking around rather than someone who is frowning and staring at their feet. Stand tall and proud even if you're shaking inside. You'll have company in no time.
2. Seek Advice
It's okay to ask for help from family and friends. If you struggle in certain social situations, don't be afraid to ask those who are more comfortable talkers/socialisers for advice. You don't have to change your personality completely, but if you're wanting to build on your social skills, it may help to get some tips and strategies from a person who is of the extroverted type. Talk to those who encourage you to meet new people and open yourself up to others but don't let them turn you into someone you're not. Introverts and extroverts are two different personality types and there is nothing is wrong with either of them so don't feel bad if you can't keep up with what they're telling you to do.
3. Practice Makes Perfect
For quite some time, I really struggled with small talk and making conversation. Every time I went to speak with someone, I almost rehearsed the conversation in my mind, making sure I was completely prepared to say what I wanted to say. This was the only way I felt safe starting a conversation with someone and even though this probably wasn't best way to interact with people, it definitely helped me to develop this skill. Nowadays, I'm able to make small talk more naturally and I feel like I definitely have the practice I put into this skill to thank for that. Just put yourself out there. Even if you don't start off doing it in the right way, don't worry because you'll get there in the end.
4. Start By Talking About Them
My favourite way to start a conversation is with a compliment. If you like their jacket or their shoes or their earrings, tell them! This is a great conversation starter in terms of leading on to questions and personal stories. If you ask them where they got something from, it's highly likely you'll be able to continue the conversation from their response. If you're not very good at talking about yourself, make the conversation about them. Listen and ask questions. They're bound to appreciate your strong engagement and focus.
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