How to Deal With Disappointment

When it comes to major let-downs, I tend to obsess over the situation for quite some time. In my head, I think of everything that could have happened differently like What if I had said this? or Would I be in this position if I had done that? When you put your utmost effort into something and it doesn't turn out the way you wanted it to, it's one of the hardest situations to bounce back from. If you're finding it hard to recover from a disappointment, hopefully this blog post helps in some way.

Express Yourself 
Remember that it's natural for you to feel the way you do. Don't try to bottle it all up because this can potentially lead to a greater outburst. It's best to isolate yourself while you come to terms with the situation so find a quiet room and let your emotion show. Sometimes it helps to see your feelings on paper so grab a journal and pen and throw every negative thought onto the page. If writing things down doesn't do you any good and you need the rebound of conversation, find a trusted family member or friend and sit down with them for a one-on-one discussion. 

Try Not to Take it Personally
Don't let setbacks knock your confidence or make you question your worth. If you apply for a job and aren't accepted, it's nothing against you as a person. They would have been looking for a very specific set of skills so don't blame yourself - or more specifically, your weaknesses - for the outcome. When something isn't meant to be, it simply isn't meant to be but just because this position wasn't quite right for you, doesn't mean there aren't any out there that are. The qualities you possess are valuable no matter what, it just depends on who is willing to support you in utilizing your strengths.  

Don't be Discouraged....
because when one door closes, another one opens. The chance of a lifetime could appear when you least expect it to so keep an open mind. When it comes to chasing your dreams, don't be fixated on the idea that there is only one way to get there. Things don't always turn out the way you want it to because that's the way life is. Totally unexpected. If you have your whole future mapped out, keep in mind that things won't always go accordingly. Plans change but don't let that notion stop you from achieving your goals! Things happen for a reason so if you've missed out on one opportunity, expect an even better one to be heading your way. Just keep your head held high and don't lose hope.